It’s a timeless dilemma. It’s 1 am, and no one particularly noteworthy is hanging around the bar. The only drinks you’ve managed to score were the ones you paid for yourself. That cute dude you were eyeing in the corner was eyeing another cute dude. Suddenly that $50 bikini wax on Wednesday isn’t quite the investment you thought it would be.
Before slinking home feeling humbled and vaguely rejected by the universe, there is one more option. A hefty double-edged sword of an option. The cell number you never got around to deleting despite your girlfriends’ warnings.
The ex.
He definitely knows what he’s doing- this isn’t his first time at the rodeo. He also knows where you live, so no need for a walk of shame. Plus you know for a fact he’ll cuddle with you afterwards. As long as you’re both on the same page, it’s an easy solution to an otherwise lonely evening. No commitments required.
But one of you might have residual feelings. Or burgeoning terrible relationships with other people. Or brand new STD’s. The choice is yours.
I’ll be honest, I’m definitely a double dipper. It seems like such a colossal waste to have trained someone only to let them loose over something silly like fighting or an inability to commit to a stable mental state. Those are clearly deal breakers when it comes to a relationship, but for a good roll in the hay? Not so much...
As a strong independent woman, I personally don’t believe in letting anything get in the way of some satisfying sex. And while my most recent ex and I were a horrendously dysfunctional couple in every capacity that involved speaking to each other - we have the most incredible sex. Between West coast liberalism and Midwest conservatism, it’s the one thing we could agree on.
And according to some thorough research done after a three-month break, we’ve still got that in common.
So what do you think? Is the sexual pleasure worth the emotional roller-coaster you might have to deal with in the morning? Let us know at kissinginthecapital@gmail.com
Love from the Capital,
R
Oh my, have I ever been there and done that.
ReplyDeleteOn this end of not speaking to the ex for a few months since he recently aquired a girlfriend (the fact that our double dipping and this acquisition just almost overlapped is another story) I feel silly to have done it.
But not really.
But mostly, yes. It caused a lot of headaches.
Obviously, I have no clue if it's worth it. Maybe it's only ever worth it for those few fleeting moments.